Writing: To the Ex-Best Friend

Dear Ex-best friends;

There have been people over the years who came into my life and for some period were my “best friend.” You made those times of my life better – richer – and made me who I am today. Very few of you ever got a thank you for helping to support me in pain or celebrating with me the joys and triumphs.

You have shown me the love and support I needed at the time I knew you. You loved me for who I am already and challenged me to be more than I was before. You listened to me be smart and stupid without mocking me (much!). You let me into your crazy life so I know my life is normal in its craziness.

I am an introvert. I don’t know how to maintain “acquaintances” very well. I value these close and profound relationships. So when I have told you that you are a best friend, understand that I value you immensely. Enough to make efforts I don’t make for anyone else. I call you. I make time to hang out with you. I come to see you instead of making you come to my “side of town.” I remember your birthday (thank you Facebook!) and comment on it. I want to see you and talk to you.

I also want you to know, I have never filled the void you left in my life. No other best friend ever filled it. It’s still there in my heart – that’s your place that I carved out and gave to you. I’m glad because knowing that it is out there with you, I can’t forget you. I can’t forget the light you brought to my life. I hope you know that you are not alone, because I gave a piece of myself to you and it’s with you. I think you are amazing. Really, truly amazing.