Life Event: New Family Member!

Last week my husband and I met someone who is joining our family.  It isn’t official-official (we did a week’s trial and that won’t be over until Wed) but we are super happy to welcome this little guy. Right now his name is Riley, but he isn’t super-attached to the name and so we’ve talked about possibly renaming him, but right now he is Riley. https://photos.app.goo.gl/dxAGgyrhmEyBqnn4A (album of Riley pics) Specifically, there are 2 pictues which pefectly exemplify how Genkii & Kawaii are handling this addition: Genkii is now CONVINCED (like he wasn’t already, but now he’s certain without-a-doubt) he’s a dogggy too: Kawaii on the other hand is utterly confused.  This thing is ignoring her.  And doesn’t understand that IT is the intruder and unwelcome in HER house.  She isn’t mad, mostly just confused.  Bewildered at being ignored.  She has never been ignored before. We haven’t had any real issues since he came to the house last Wed and although we suspect there might

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Feminism: Single-Income Households

Originally posted on Dream by Day:
I’ve been jokingly saying for a few years now that everyone who works 40-hours-a-week needs a wife. It’s supposed to be funny. It’s supposed to ease the frustration that there just aren’t enough hours in the day to work a full time job and take care of a family. Well, I think I am ready to declare that I think this is true.  Well, mostly true.  It really is a case of “the American dream is to have a single-income household.” Whether that is a stay-at-home Mom or Dad; or both parents working and they can afford in-home help (has anyone else noticed that the mom in Brady Bunch was stay-at-home and they had a housekeeper?!?!?). We just can’t do it.  There a bazillion articles and discussions about the emotional burden of maintaining a home (cleaning, cooking, shopping for toilet paper) – much less adding in kids. Kids are a full-time job. Period. Do-Not-Pass-Go-Do-Not-Collect-$200.  Pretending that both parents should…

Politics: Dodd-Frank Roll-back

Ok, so I started writing a piece on the recent roll-back of Dodd-Frank rules.  And I’m going to be honest, I spent about 5 hours trying to read shit about it – and I have no idea how this will impact us. They didn’t roll back the protections I know I would be up-in-arms about (which are really the “Consumer Protection Act” and until this rollback I thought they were the same bill because I think I’ve always heard them talked about together).  But, I pretty much have the philosophy that anything the Koch brother supports, I should probably oppose on principle. I am concerned this deregulation will lead to bubbles.  Bubbles like 1929 or 2008.  I’m not going to try to reiterate the arguments – there are people way smarter than me explaining (or trying to!) the issues at hand. What I’ve decided to say is this: Think about it. Well, my question for anyone reading this is: who benefits?  Who

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Review: Herland

Herland, Charlotte Perkins Gilman I saw this on a list of “early sci-fi books written by women” and DAMN.  DAMN.  It was written as a serial and then published as a book in 1915.  Women got the right to vote in 1919.  Just FYI – that means this woman-written-science-fiction-utopian-novel about a society of women-only (literally, parthenogenesis – virgin birth no men society). It was short and sweet and fun to listen to (via Librivox). The premise is three American men discover/get to this little land which has been protected by mountains & cliffs for two-thousand years.  With no men. Because the men killed each other. I did get a little tired of the word “motherhood” because the over arching philsophy of these women is motherhood.  And so everything he (the imaginary male protagonist writer) “explores” about this utopia deals with this core concept. It is fascinating.  I finished it on my way home and immediately wanted to write my thoughts, but that’s actually really hard. I’m

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Politicis: Gun Control

Originally posted on Dream by Day:
I am pretty far left on most social issues. This is the one exception. I’m not far to the right, but I am definitely more-right than many of my friends (and family).  And everyone I talk to about this will hear me remind them that I think cars are a more dangerous problem which I want addressed first. My Facebook has been full of posts the past several days. About half of them are “TAKE AWAY THE GUNS!” and half of them are “STOP TRYING TO TAKE MY GUN.” It is tragic when someone is killed. There is no remedy for that pain. And yes, guns are terrible weapons which can kill many people very quickly, multiplying that pain. I also know that my friends who own guns are very responsible. They can drone on and on with each other about various lock-box options, why they like the ones they do and which brand(s)…

Life Memories: The Dime Theory

Originally posted on Dream by Day:
As a trainer, the most-dreaded question is “why do I need this.”  Especially if the person signed up to take my class. I can tell you then and there, they are going to be obnoxious from here to next week.  Everyone remembers in school the question “why do I have to learn _______” whether it was math, history, a foreign language, or Shakespeare.  How many teachers had good answers? My mother is the one who always gave me the best answers to this.  “Why do I need to learn Shakespeare, it’s sooo boring.” “You’re learning how people interact. Shakespeare lived hundreds of years ago, but people still behave like idiots and make these types of crazy choices and look what happens.” As the youngest of three, I had already learned the lesson that I could avoid making the same mistakes my siblings made… so the idea that even “old” books could teach me about people…. suddenly…

Review: Struggle Reading

I am struggling.  I am struggling soooo hard with this book right now.  In general, I like Brandon Sanderson’s books, but I picked up Way of Kings from the library and…. I am slogging. I blame his editor.  His editor needed to look him in the face and say “Dude. You don’t need to say everything six times.  It’s one book.  and four main characters? FOUR?  You need to work up to that kind of multi-protagonist shit.”  Seriously, that doesn’t count the like 8 times there have been little aside-sort of things. I can tell this book was written post-Wheel of Time… I think he picked up some of Jordan’s bad habits. It’s an interesting world and the protagonists are well-written (it is still Sanderson and he does write interesting characters).  The magic is kind of fascinating and I will drag myself through it, but LAWD, I am struggling with it.

Manners: Why we need Feminism for Men

Originally posted on Dream by Day:
Yes, I think this is a topic on manners as much as politics.  There has recently been a kerfuffle about “Nice guys” and feminists and how the two shall never meet! In case you missed it, this one started with a “Nice Guy” named Scott Aaronson blogging on the difficulty Nice Guys have with feminism. The responses (#1 and #2) I have read both are neither bashing nor justifying but trying to re-frame the questions, and both link to even further responses which are either trying to “teach” Mr. Aaronson how to “get over it” or why he IS still priviledged or…. the rabbit hole is deep my friends. I could easily talk about Nice Guys, but this guy does a good job of it.  I’ll have to write up my explanation of Schrödinger’s Rapist another day because I don’t like that imagery (although there is something important about reminding men to respect women’s boundaries!). There is…

Reading Challenge!

Goodreads does an annual reading challenge (if you aren’t on Goodreads yet – GET THERE) Last year I set myself 52 books – a book a week.   I ended up with 57 according to Goodreads.  So this year I said 60.  That’s 5 books a month.   Whew, I better get cracking! Now, last year I pretty much only tracked books I read “for the first time” – there were a few books I picked up as an “afternoon read” (books I know so well I brush over the details and jump to the juicy parts).  Wheel of Time is the only one I think I made an exception because I tracked all 14 – but I was working my way through the whole series and I hadn’t gotten past book 9 previously…. So this year I am going to try to track every book I read – even the little “I only read my favorite parts but cover-to-cover” books I go

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